Dating your in laws sibling
Like many survivors of child abuse, children may get physical pleasure from the abuse - including sexual arousal and orgasm.
When a sibling is responsible for this arousal, the shame can feel enormous.
Obviously, with this silence surrounding it, it is perfectly understandable why, if you are a survivor of sibling sexual abuse, you may believe you are the only one this has happened to. It is estimated that approximately 15% of all people report some kind of sexual activity with a sibling in childhood.
More specifically, studies have shown that between 2% (Leder, 1991) and 4% (Finkelhor, 1999) of people have been sexually victimized by a sibling as the sexual contact involved some degree of forced or coercive activity.
As a child, we often don't have the cognitive ability to understand that something which can be wrong.
Often, sibling abuse is more coercive than physically forceful i.e.
Sexual abuse between siblings remains one of the last taboos to be addressed by society - and as such, it is rarely discussed in the media, or even among survivors themselves.
It comes as a shock to many people that children can present a risk to other children, but it is becoming increasingly apparent that children (even children within families) can post a very real risk.
) in emotionally dysfunctional families who are reluctant to show love or have overt displays of affection.In fact, it is considered that such behavior is healthy and necessary for normal sexual and social development.As siblings are generally close in age and locational proximity, it stands to reason that the opportunity for sexual exploration between siblings is fairly high - and that, if appropriate and based on mutual curiosity, then these activities are not deemed to be harmful or distressing, either in childhood or later in adulthood (Borgis, 2002).But it's important to remember that you are going to have a very different perspective about what your sibling did to you when looking back at it from your adult perspective, than you would have had when you were a confused and abused child.When sexual abuse is perpetrated by a sibling, in many ways, it is even harder to break this silence, and there are certainly some special reasons that make sibling abuse especially difficult to disclose: Often, sibling abuse can start off seeming fun and exciting.....messing around with your brother / sister in a way that seems playful.